How You Can Help Your Children During a Military Divorce

Going through a military divorce is often times extremely stressful for any children in the family. Many kids internalize the problem as something that they are responsible for, which can cause a plethora of problems in their lives.


They may end up acting out at school and can truly change the pattern of their behavior dramatically. Some children run into the wrong crowd after their parents' divorce, while many others wind up getting into trouble with the law.


These situations are unfortunate, but it is incredibly important not to shy away from these things as a possibility. Handling a military divorce amicably and letting the kids know it is not their fault is, without question, the best way to proceed.


If you find yourself in this situation and are thinking about getting a divorce, you should think about helping your children above all else.

Controlling Hostility

Military divorce can be hard on children. Many of them see their military parent as their hero. It’s important to make sure you are not badmouthing your soon-to-be-ex to your child. Don’t let your own feelings get in the way of your child’s relationship with their other parent.


While there may be bitterness from both sides during a divorce, you should understand that any hostility is going to wreak havoc on your kids. The best thing you can possibly do is to keep your feelings to yourself and be strong for your children.


Your children are going to be able to perceive your anger, no matter how you try to hide it. This anger and hostility will rub off on them and they will likely experience negative behavior as a result. If you want to avoid this at all costs, make sure you handle the divorce proceedings in the most adult manner possible.

Having a Talk With the Kids

Children are likely going to have the feeling that they are in some way responsible for their parents getting divorced. Sitting down with them and explaining it is not their fault is crucial.


While this is not going to fully solve the internal conflict that they are going to experience, it will likely make them feel somewhat better about the situation. Avoiding this is a huge mistake, so make sure you let your kids know they are not to blame for your military divorce.

Obtaining Legal Representation

The last thing you can do for your kids is to hire a highly qualified military divorce attorney to represent you. Doing so will help to take some of the stress out of the situation.


This is familiar territory for the attorneys at Drexler Law. We will help make the transition as smooth as possible and give you insight into how to deal with your children. Many of our cases involve children, so we can help direct you in your actions.


Contact Drexler Law at (719) 259-0050 to discuss your family law matters.