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3 Signs Your Spouse Might Be a Narcissist

The Dream Becomes a Nightmare

The partner of your dreams has started to act in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable. You wonder why they seem to make themselves the center of the universe. Unfortunately, your spouse might be exhibiting signs of narcissism, and trying to deal with a marriage to a narcissist is incredibly difficult. If you are unsure of whether or not your spouse is a narcissist, here are some signs to look out for.

Grandiose Sense of Self-Importance

One sign of narcissism is a self-inflated sense of importance. Narcissists believe that they truly are the center of the universe and that everything revolves around what they say and do. This is often accompanied by a superiority complex that elevates their achievements and actions and belittles the accomplishments of others. They may feel as if they have to “one-up” everything everyone else is doing.

If you notice that your spouse seems to take the center of attention more often than usual, that might be a sign of a more serious problem.

Manipulative Behavior

One of the telltale signs of narcissism is manipulation. A narcissist wants to be in control of their lives in any way possible, including through the actions of others. They may bombard you with love and affection in order to impress you and win you over before they begin trying to achieve their own way.

Their manipulative behavior may not end at just you; it’s common for narcissists to exploit other people they know in order to get their way. Take notice if you sense this is happening; their manipulation may not be easy to detect, at first, but if the love stops and the harshness starts, this should be noted.

Lack of Empathy

You have emotions, too; unfortunately, your narcissistic spouse may not care. Because they are the center of their own world, it’s very difficult (and sometimes borderline impossible) for a narcissist to relate to anything that you are feeling. This can leave you feeling alone despite having a spouse.

This lack of empathy also causes them to blame other people for things that don’t go quite right. It’s almost impossible for a narcissist to accept that they are responsible for something. If you consistently hear that it’s always your fault something goes wrong, it might not be; it might just be your narcissistic spouse.

Seeking the Help of a Colorado Divorce Attorney

It’s important to note that you don’t have to be stuck in a difficult situation forever. If you are unhappy living with a narcissist, you have the right to escape. Seeking out a divorce attorney to determine your options is a smart first step to take.

At Drexler Law, we know how difficult it can be to take the first step to a new life; fortunately, you are not alone. We’re here to help you move forward with the next step of your life.


To schedule a consultation, call us at (719) 259-0050 or visit us online.

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